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Men, women, and other aliens
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Men, women, and other aliens

My conversation with writer Jacob Falkovich on becoming a man under unmaly conditions.

In today’s conversation, we’re diving into the treacherous waters of modern masculinity, emotional maturity, and why men and women often feel like aliens to each other—topics I've been mulling over as a mom raising two young boys. Joining me is Jacob Falkovich, the razor-sharp thinker behind Second Person Substack, who has a refreshingly nuanced take on dating dynamics, parenting taboos, and why online discourse around gender often leads us astray. Together we poke at the awkward truths, and ask: Can men safely express emotions? Is masculinity a checklist? And what happens when ambiguity becomes unbearable?

Jacob Falkovich writes on X at @yashkaf and on Substack at

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Modern Masculinity

06:38 The Impact of Parenting on Masculinity

12:21 Cultural Influences on Parenting Styles

18:35 The Role of Community in Child Development

26:31 Understanding Gender Dynamics in Relationships

33:08 The Alien Nature of Gender Differences

45:23 The Beauty Standards Debate

48:02 Emotional Maturity in Men

52:28 Navigating Conflict in Relationships

54:55 The Role of Communication in Marriage

01:00:08 Exploring Masculinity and Emotional Processing

01:02:52 The Search for Meaning in Modern Relationships

01:10:29 Polyamory and Parenting Dynamics

01:16:05 Balancing Individuality and Partnership

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