Both Men's Rights Activists and Feminists are right, and you should ignore them.

Yes, we suck, and yes, we need to work together.

After floating in the highly unloved space between men's rights activism and radical feminism pretty much since I was a teenager, I've come to get a feel for the perspectives of both camps. 

What I saw in these spaces was victimhood—a lot of it, and a lot of it authentic and viscerally convincing, on both sides. What brought me to feminism in my youth we…